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Find Your Burning, Powerful, Explosive Why

Do you want to lose weight?

The list of how to do it is endless.

Will you go through lypo? Will you take diet pills? (I don’t recommend it, but that’s what people do.) Will you go to the Gym? Will you decrease your Carb intake? Will you stop eating meat? Will you do an after six diet? (My friend uses this diet. Every time he wants to eat, no matter what the time is, he simply adjusts his watch to 5:45pm…)

Friend, do you want to overhaul an area in your life?

Here’s what I realized: Changing your life doesn’t depend so much on your method as on your motive.

If you want to change anything in your life, the most important question isn’t “How” but “Why”. If you want to overhaul your life, you’ve got to find your burning, powerful, explosive “Why”.

In other words, you change not so much by the greatness of your program but by the greatness of your purpose.

For your life to change you, the purpose has to have two qualities: (1) It’s got to be Emotional and (2) it’s got to be Enormous…

1. Emotional

Psychology will tell us that we make most of our decisions based on emotional reasons. But once we make them, we look for logical reasons to justify our decisions.

This fact corresponds to our brain anatomy.

The newest part of our brain is called the neocortex. It’s responsible for analytical and rational thought.

The deeper part of your brain is called the limbic brain. That’s where all your feelings reside—happiness, sadness, love, fear, trust… Guess what: This part of your brain is responsible for most of your human behavior. And most of your decision-making.

Problem: It has no capacity for language. Because the limbic brain can’t explain itself, it will rely on your neocortex to explain why you did what you did.

Let me give you an example…

This Doctor Didn’t Lose Weight Until…

Danny was overweight by 55 pounds.

For the longest time, he wanted to start an exercise program. Specifically, he wanted to take a walk every morning. Danny had all the logic in the world—because Danny was a Doctor. Danny’s neocortex was brimming with the right information. He knew all the facts. He read all the books. He knew all the statistics. He knew the lectures. But no matter how “logical” his reason was to lose weight, he never kept his exercise program. Because his pillow was soft. And the blanket was warm. And the bed was so inviting…

But one day, something happened.

One afternoon, Danny was at home, sipping his coffee while reading the newspaper.

That was when his little 8-year old girl, wearing a pretty princess dress, complete with a shiny crown on her curly hair and pink high heels on her feet, walked up to him and said, “Daddy!”

“What?” Danny asked, while still reading the paper.

“Daddy!” she shouted louder.

“What is it?” he asked again, still reading.

That was when his little princess pushed his newspaper down, stared straight at her father’s shocked face, and said, “Daddy, will you still be alive when I get married?”

Suddenly, everything stopped for Danny. The walls, the ceilings, all the furniture at home became a giant blur—except for his girl in front of him, asking him this terrifying question.

When she said those words, he felt intense pain. It was so real, it was like someone planted a sharp dagger on his chest.

Slowly, a very vivid picture grew in his mind. He saw himself walking down a Church aisle, beside his daughter, now a beautiful young woman, and giving her away to a well-dressed monster waiting at the altar…

He also realized how he needed to live a long life. Because who will protect his little girl from unscrupulous suitors? In his mind, he devised a plan: The moment a suitor—any suitor–knocked on the door, he’d open it, and without any warning, simply punch the punk on the solar plexus. As the punk crumples on the ground, curling in pain, he’d say in a low growling voice, “You haven’t done anything wrong yet. Wait till you do…”

The next morning, Danny went out to walk. And the next day, he walked again. And the day after. And two years later, he still runs every morning. So far, he’s lost 30 pounds.

Logic didn’t change him. But he found an emotional reason big enough to make him change.

2. Enormous

You’ve got to find a big enough “Why”.

The reason why people don’t change—even if they want to change—is because their “Why’s” are small.

Here’s a clue: It can’t just be about you. It’s got to be bigger than you. When you do it for someone you love, it gets bigger.

Danny always wanted to run because he was concerned about his health. But when he was doing it just for himself, it wasn’t big enough. The moment he decided it was no longer about him, but about his daughter, the reason became gigantic in his mind.

But to make it even bigger, don’t just do it for your family. Do it for people for your bigger family—your city, your church, your country.

TV Had To Go

When I was kid, I loved TV. I was a walking TV Guide. My sister would ask me, “What’s showing on Tuesdays, 8:30pm, at channel 7?” and without batting an eyelash, I’d say, “Charlie’s Angels”.

But when I was 13 years old, I felt God wanted me to replace TV with reading. Why? So I could learn more and have something to say as a Preacher. So I gave TV up. I stopped cold turkey.

For a 13-year-old kid, that’s almost impossible. But my “why” was gigantic: God wanted to use me to bless the world.

Let me share with you another story from my life…

I Wanted To Finance The Kingdom

Once upon a time, I was a poor missionary earning P800 a month. And I was very happy. I loved my life.

But my pain came whenever I met a needy person who I wanted to help—but couldn’t. It was utterly frustrating.

I also felt that inner pain when I wanted to launch a new ministry, but I couldn’t, because we lacked funds. My favorite fantasy? To pull out my wallet and start the new ministry with my own money.

That emotional reason was enough for me to cause drastic changes in my life. I took a crash course on learning how money worked. I launched my businesses, failed, launched again, failed again, launched again… I persevered amidst many failures, until I succeeded. Today, I run many businesses and manage my ever-growing investments in the Stock Market.

My desire to change my financial life—from poverty to abundance—came from a desire to bless the world. I didn’t do it just so I could drive a sleek car. The force that woke me up in the morning to work on my businesses and investments was a desire to finance the Kingdom.

What dream can be bigger than that?

Here’s the truth: If you find a big enough reason to change something in your life, you can change absolutely anything.

I urge you to dig deep and find that big-enough reason.

For example, in our spiritual family called Light of Jesus, we have a big vision. We want to build 1000 Feasts in the world. We want to build Feasts even in China, Africa, Eastern Europe… This enormous vision is the reason why I want to be a better husband, a better father, a better friend, a better preacher, a better writer, a better leader, a better person…

To overhaul your life, find your emotional and enormous reason… Talk, walk, eat, and sleep with that dream everyday.

When the “Why” is clear, the “How” will come to you.

And your life will change.

May your dreams come true,

Bo Sanchez

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81 Responses to “Find Your Burning, Powerful, Explosive Why”

Donny F. Awa, on January 29th, 2012 at 9:54 pm Said:

Great article c”,)
Thank you!!!
tc, on January 29th, 2012 at 10:42 pm Said:

wow. your message inspires me again & again. thank u so much
niki, on January 30th, 2012 at 3:39 am Said:

dream bigger dreams….

thank you for pushing us to dream big not just for ourselves but more specially for others.

may that big emotional WHY fuel the dreams and aspirations kept in our hearts..

a blessed week ahead!
dj ong, on January 30th, 2012 at 6:25 am Said:

just what I needed…

everyday I’m very fortunate that I meet people that becomes a blessing to me… Hopefully I’d also be a blessing to others as well… that is my biggest why… I’d aim to change my ways, to be a blessing to other people… better start at my own backyard - my nephews… they’re still kids that needs guidance hopefully I’d be able to change for them… set an example and be a blessing to them… so in turn they’d be a blessing and be an example to others as well…

God bless us all!
Mabelle, on January 30th, 2012 at 7:11 am Said:

Thanks brother Bo, your words today is my goal-booster.god bless you!!
Ai, on January 30th, 2012 at 8:01 am Said:

Thank you so much Bro. Bo. You inspire me everyday God bless.
Mavic, on January 30th, 2012 at 8:39 am Said:

You are an inspiration. God bless.
Jamar, on January 30th, 2012 at 8:59 am Said:

thank you for the wonderful article. i hit me really hard. you are an inspiration to me.
Red Denal, on January 30th, 2012 at 9:03 am Said:

Another great inspiring Monday morning.

Finding our true emotional why for me is like searching our true meaning and purpose in life. Thanks bro Bo.

God bless the people who read your inspirational words and wisdom.
Don Miguel, on January 30th, 2012 at 9:03 am Said:

A BIG WOW for a very inspiring, moving message. God bless your family and your ministries! To God be the glory!
charlie, on January 30th, 2012 at 9:07 am Said:

thanks a lot . . . . . . . .
Corie Sunga, on January 30th, 2012 at 9:22 am Said:

Thank you for blessing us your readers thru your words..God Bless Bro. Bo..You always inspire me.
Smiley, on January 30th, 2012 at 9:42 am Said:

Great article! Amen Bro. Bo! My biggest ‘Why’ is to help my family, my friends, my workmates, my co-business, LOJ ministries and to give my 1st P1M to GOD! In JESUS name i claim! ”,)
Joan, on January 30th, 2012 at 10:00 am Said:

maraming salamat for inspiring a lot of people Bro Bo
Wood, on January 30th, 2012 at 10:06 am Said:

Thanks Bo for all the inspiring article… it means a lot to me and it serves as an inspiration in my everyday life…
jerwin, on January 30th, 2012 at 10:17 am Said:

Thanks bro! nice food for the soul!
Bong, on January 30th, 2012 at 10:27 am Said:

Bro Bo you hit me right in in my soul’s solar plexus. This woke me up. Thanks for making my complicated goals of changing now clear and simple.
Alvin Almuete, on January 30th, 2012 at 10:36 am Said:

I’ll share this awe-inspiring webpage! Very true again Bro. Bo! What an insight! Thank you for reminding us always Bro. Bo! We love to hear from you and others as well more!!
earl, on January 30th, 2012 at 10:45 am Said:

Thanks Bro Bo! This is truly an eye-opener and it’s just what I needed to understand why I keep coming back to old habits. May God guide me in my search for the “enormous why” and may God continue to bless you because you are truly a blessing to other people.
Jeff Santos, on January 30th, 2012 at 10:51 am Said:

Same lectures I’ve learned from my business partners. The bigger the WHY, the easier the HOW. Thanks Bro. Bo for that constant reminder.
Aejay Santos, on January 30th, 2012 at 11:14 am Said:

Thank you Bro Bo, this is exactly what I need. And thatnk you for bringing in the details. Now I’d know where to start and how to start looking for that WHY.. God permit, hopefully I find that wake up call situation too..

May God abundantly bless you and your team.
More power!
sealand, on January 30th, 2012 at 12:03 pm Said:

hi bro bo,

Thnx a lot for inspiring us thru your writings. I went to the Feast once and enjoyed it, I really want to do the experience again. I look forward to subscribe in your Truly Rich Club as a Gold member soon..

God Bless!!!
millet, on January 30th, 2012 at 12:36 pm Said:

hi, Bro Bo

thanks a lot for sharing this great article. It inspires me so much. God bless you more!
madee, on January 30th, 2012 at 12:38 pm Said:

maybe here’s my missing link… I wasn’t so sure why i want change, why i want what i want… Thank you Bo.. u contribute so much to the change i want to happen in my life… Hopefully i could join he community of the truly rich… for i really wanted to help people… thanks and God bless you more..
Ging, on January 30th, 2012 at 12:42 pm Said:

Hi Bro Bo,

Thank you so much for your inspiring messages. Truly a very nourishing Soulfood each day… You are a gift from God to us.

May God bless you and your team….
cristina m. cabasag, on January 30th, 2012 at 12:49 pm Said:

Hi Bro,

thank you very much for always giving us inspirational messages, may your tribe increase, God bless
angeline, on January 30th, 2012 at 12:58 pm Said:

thank you, as always for the great article
Ruby, on January 30th, 2012 at 1:00 pm Said:

…..salamat Bro. Bo sa lahat !!!!!! sana d ka magsawang magpadala ng spiritual messages
Amy Madrinan, on January 30th, 2012 at 1:24 pm Said:

I have been going to the Feast since January 2011 and have missed only twice because of valid reasons, one was 50th anniversary of my in-laws and the other an excursion with my inlaws who arrived from Canada after 10 years and we were complete for the first time after 10 long years. This pattern went on every Sunday since 2011 because I can’t afford to miss any of your talks. I know that you have significantly influenced my family financially and relationally. We have been so blessed Bro Bo because all Sundays that we spend with you bring about spiritual growth and learning
among my family and its members.Thank you so much.
Quincy, on January 30th, 2012 at 2:47 pm Said:

If there was a like button for this I’d press it. Thank you for this awe-inspiring piece, you are right about finding the big WHY. You made my eyes see new things. I thank you again.
Limraul, on January 30th, 2012 at 3:29 pm Said:

This article seems to speak to me because I really need to change a lot of things in my life. Thank you very much!
Melchie, on January 30th, 2012 at 3:35 pm Said:

Thanks a lot for the enlightenment..
Now i know..
Lhemar~_^, on January 30th, 2012 at 4:37 pm Said:

Bro Bo,

tnx for this aRticle..GOD bless you..always..:))
ROM, on January 30th, 2012 at 4:50 pm Said:

Another inspiring article from Bo! I want to read this kind of article first before reading the newspaper…
ian, on January 30th, 2012 at 5:10 pm Said:

find the whys? big emotional whys and the hows will follow! ok, thanks!
Adeline, on January 30th, 2012 at 5:38 pm Said:

Thanks for the inspiring message Brod BO, it makes my mind wider to look at the surrounding.
amor, on January 30th, 2012 at 5:41 pm Said:

Hi Bro. Bo,

i took up the 30-day challenge because i have a big “WHY.”

May God bless you always!
Airene, on January 30th, 2012 at 7:41 pm Said:

Amazing.. simple words yet with great impact!! Yesterday, I was also reminded of this truth— we are here for a BIGGER reason, not just for ourselves. Thank you for convicting me again today about this. I can deeply feel the enormous change that will come this year for me and for my family. Praise GOD and More blessings to you Bro. Bo!
Frank H, on January 30th, 2012 at 8:00 pm Said:

Bo, you’re right - it’s the why that’s the hardest question to answer, and the best to ask.
brenda elemino, on January 30th, 2012 at 9:08 pm Said:

Hello Bro. Bo hope to see you here in Cebu. Thanks for all the inspiring words. Continue to preach and surely, billions are willing to hear and read it.
Health Shop, on January 30th, 2012 at 9:25 pm Said:

Wow, absolutely fantastic and inspiring message! Great job Brother Bo.
maria, on January 30th, 2012 at 9:41 pm Said:

an inspirational message again to remind me that we should go on in our life despite of downs and low……thank you very very much for showing us how great our life is with God…God bless you always Bo Sanchez
Ronald Cagape, on January 30th, 2012 at 9:58 pm Said:

Thanks, Bo. I also believe it to be true. Your “Why” has to be strong enough to break through the fears, the worries, the laziness. Finding the How is secondary because the strategy will come or will be found if the Why is strong enough.
wishful_thinker, on January 30th, 2012 at 10:36 pm Said:

Thanks for reminding us that we need to have a big why….to make everything possible…
kim, on January 30th, 2012 at 10:50 pm Said:

inspiring soulfood!!It moves me!!!
Thank you always Bro. BO!!
Ariel lectura, on January 30th, 2012 at 11:16 pm Said:

Another great article Bro. Bo. Keep ‘em coming will you…..
Thank you….
Siegfred Tuberon, on January 31st, 2012 at 8:53 am Said:

Simple and deep…I shared this message in one of our MSU alumni e-group and here is one of the many positive reply on your message Bo…….

thanks for sharing. i like this article by bo sanchez. simply said, JUST DO IT AND DO IT WITH ALL YOUR MIGHT. my personal experience is similar to danny, the doctor. been trying to get up in the morning for brisk walking, but the cold msu mornings made it impossible. until i realized my maintenance meds are taking a bulk of my budget and i have no more clothes to wear because they i don’t fit anymore (and with my kind of work, i have to look great).

so, i simply DID what i should have done years ago. now, am off the hook, no more maintenance meds since my cholesterol, sugar, blood pressure are all down. and the best part was the LOOKS. hahaha!

will join a fun run sponsored by philhealth this sunday. isn’t it great to be well and healthy?

Cecille M. -Dean MSU-CHRM
lyndz, on January 31st, 2012 at 9:02 am Said:

I can relate to the pain of wanting to help, but with no means to be of help. That pain has always been my big WHY in my pusuit of financial independence. The HOW’s? They are starting to come. Thanks bro for always enlightening us. More pain….i welcome it….it ushers in renewed drive and new visions…
Jojo Andot, on January 31st, 2012 at 9:36 am Said:

Very inspiring indeed, Brod Bo. It answered my long-seated question on why I could not change the things that really matter to me.Thanks much!
erlie, on January 31st, 2012 at 10:16 am Said:

wow!!!
Gay, on January 31st, 2012 at 10:52 am Said:

Dear Bro. Bo,

Thank you for this inspiring article. God bless you!
Janny, on January 31st, 2012 at 11:53 am Said:

Thanks, Bro. Bo! This is another powerful message. The way you set minds really blessed you so much! God bless you more and more!
nic, on January 31st, 2012 at 12:13 pm Said:

Bro. Bo, this just blew me away! hats off again to you Bro. Bo. i cant believe God sending me the same message again and again, and He’s using you to remind me that over and over! wew! hats off.
ems, on January 31st, 2012 at 1:27 pm Said:

amazing.. its stikes me up.. but this i needed most…thank u Bo for being an inspiration…
Hutch, on January 31st, 2012 at 1:31 pm Said:

Wonderful! Truly inspiring! Thank you Bro. Bo! GOD bless you more in your ministry!

love&prayers,
Hutch ;-D
raul, on January 31st, 2012 at 1:33 pm Said:

Thank you. Bro. Bo, I have a new learning after reading your article. You have influenced and changed my daily living in this world to an inspiring once. I’ve always watched you every Sunday morning. I hope your program will prosper forever.
I am now at the stage of crisis. You have enlightened my mind to fight for the enormous problems in my life. Change it to a challenging one. Stand to be a good father to my children. I know someday that GOD will sprinkle HIS blessing unto our family. It is just a matter of time to wait. Perseverance is really needed.As you’ve said: GOD is waiting for the right timing. And when it comes, it would be an infinite blessings. So, all I have to do is to keep on trying until I succeed.
maria, on January 31st, 2012 at 2:34 pm Said:

Wow what a pretty one:) Thanks Brod. Bo. Now i came to know what is the important of time management. I give up everything to him…co’z in my capacity I coudn’t do. The main reasons of this Im lazy:( Now is the time to change my life to do his WILL. I need your Prayer and guidance Brod Bo. May the LOrd Bless you and Protect you wherever you go. More Power!!!
Paz Tinio, on January 31st, 2012 at 4:36 pm Said:

Dear Bo,

You really inspire me everytime I read your articles. I share to others some of your quotations through our Talk at our Parish Renewal Experience in our Parish.

God bless you always and may you continue sharing your talent to all of us.

I love you with the love of the Lord.

Ate Paz
Adel Villegas, on January 31st, 2012 at 9:27 pm Said:

thank you Bro Bo for this very inspiring Article. Dream big and make it a reality, Live simply so that others may live and be a blessing to other…God Bless Us All.
des, on January 31st, 2012 at 9:27 pm Said:

Thank you so much brother Bro for this inspiring message..
Teresita Van Peel - Abing, on February 1st, 2012 at 5:26 am Said:

Thank you Bro. Bo for this very inspiring article and for all the articles you have shared with us. Thank you also for always sharing your gift to Wisdom with us. Because of your great love for God and your great desire to help build His Kingdom here on earth, God has blessed you so much…like having talented and committed people around you, to help you in this Ministry and God has given you the ability to acquire financial abundance to be able to help those who are in need. Thank you also for always inspiring us to do the same by joining your club. God willing, I’ll be one of them. We know that when we help others, we are indirectly doing this for Him. As Jesus said, ‘what you do to the least of my brethren, you do it to me.’ This is a great challenge on my part because it is also said, ‘faith without action is dead’. For me, you are a living saint in modern times! God bless you, your family and your Ministry always!
Teresita Van Peel - Abing, on February 1st, 2012 at 5:32 am Said:

…gift of Wisdom (correction)
Martin, on February 1st, 2012 at 7:43 am Said:

You’re articles are really inspiring. I’ve been reading your books since High School This is the soulfood I need everyday. Thank you for being a blessing to us!
londo, on February 1st, 2012 at 9:46 am Said:

thanx for not giving up on me, our internet server malfunctioned, ur article is great and timely to start the year 2012, i really gained 10 pounds, so must start running again with my kid, thanx for keeping the our spiritual fire burning, more power godbls
TrulyRichClubber, on February 1st, 2012 at 1:25 pm Said:

Thanks Bro Bo!
WHY WHY WHY, the best force in the world!
Keep blessing people!
Cha, on February 1st, 2012 at 2:25 pm Said:

Very inspiring! you never fail to made me realize the importance of life living with Jesus Christ . thank you po!
jane, on February 1st, 2012 at 3:37 pm Said:

Dear Bro.Bo,
Thank you so much for contineously sending me your very inspiring and challenging articles.What i really like so much in every article is the Spiritual aspect that is always integrated.Bro.Bo,you are so blessed with God’s gift of Wisdom! We are just so grateful that,that gift of wisdom is being shared to everyone! You are an example of a true christian! CONGRATULATIONS and keep up the good work!
Rocel, on February 1st, 2012 at 4:24 pm Said:

Great article Bo

Simon Sinek Meets the Bible
jenny, on February 1st, 2012 at 7:46 pm Said:

Dear Bo,

Thanks a lot from your inspiring messages,you always inspire us to Dream big,that’s why one of my motto in lyf is “Aim High”, coz i want to help my family and other people who are in need.Thanks Bo,God Bless!

ChamJade
arlyn, on February 1st, 2012 at 8:58 pm Said:

thank you for always giving us a reason to live a better life…..the whys and hows will consistently inspire us to live our life to the fullest…..u will always be a blessing to us!
luchi, on February 1st, 2012 at 9:58 pm Said:

Thank you Bo. You have been leading me to a better
life. My problem is tardiness. I see some improvements in myself recently. Godbless you.
Ladyharp, on February 2nd, 2012 at 9:27 am Said:

An eye-opener article once again. Thank God for you Bro. Bo.
Lorrylay Reyes, on February 2nd, 2012 at 12:48 pm Said:

very great article Bro. Bo , thank you for being a blessing:-)
marlyn e. abella, on February 2nd, 2012 at 12:55 pm Said:

Hi Bro Bo,

Its so inspiring. Hope to hear you more. God Bless.

marlyn of Davao
romeo balila, on February 2nd, 2012 at 2:45 pm Said:

Thanks for giving for giving me the idea on how to make a drastic change in my life..now i know how to pursue with my plan to change my life. thank you for this inspiring words, now i have all the reason to change my life, not only for myself, my family and also for my community and for our chapel were i was doing my service as a member of lectors, commentators community…thank u very much, and god bless you, your family and most of all your community were you can help pushing themselves that changes is not impossible for anyone…god bless.
irien, on February 2nd, 2012 at 6:24 pm Said:

Dear Bro. Bo,

This is such a great and enlightening article.. thanks a lot for sharing the message of God.. God bless you more..
rizza morales, on February 2nd, 2012 at 6:33 pm Said:

I already found my emotional why and I am doing all that I can to achieve my dreams for my parents, myself and most importantly for my two angels.
Lex, on February 4th, 2012 at 3:12 pm Said:

Thanks Bo..This is a wake-up call for me…..I hope you’ll have an April - dated Trully Rich Financial Coaching Program.
Nilo Simogan, on February 4th, 2012 at 4:08 pm Said:

Dear Bro. Bo,

Great article and very timely for me. Keep it up and God bless you more!
joey garcia, on February 5th, 2012 at 9:58 pm Said:

Thanks Bo.
You really inspire me!
God bless you more.
Profitable Business Ideas, on February 10th, 2012 at 2:23 pm Said:

Inspiring and encouraging others are really your gifts. thanks!

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