How To Make God Your Leader
One day, a huge crowd was in front of Heaven, waiting to get in.
To put more order, Jesus announced, “I’ll see the men first.” He then said, “All husbands who are the leader at home, form a line on my right. All husbands whose wives are the leader at home, form a line on my left.”
Immediately, thousands of men lined up on His left.
And only one brave guy stood at the right.
Jesus shook his head. He scolded the husbands at the left, “I’m a little bit disappointed with you. I specifically told you in the Bible that the husband should be the leader at home!” He then looked at the one man on his right and smiled. “Congratulations!”
The man said, “Thank you, Jesus. But I really don’t know why I’m here. My wife told me to stand here, so I did.”
Today, leadership is a bad word.
Let me tell you about my friend Carlos. He’s only in his thirties, but has already had eleven jobs in eleven companies. All because he can’t work with his bosses. Either his boss is too selfish or too inefficient or too lazy or too picky or too bossy. Though it was clear as daylight, Carlos couldn’t see the pattern. That he had issues with all authority figures.
Later on, I found out that Carlos never had a good relationship with his father.
This was the root.
(Note: This is the second of the series I’m giving on OMG!—describing who God is. Last week, I described God as Father. Today, I’ll describe God as Leader. But as you can see, both messages are one.)
Your father, whether you like it or not, was your first leader.
If you had a difficult relationship with your father, most likely, you’ll have a difficult relationship with all the leaders in your life. Including God as leader. You may be able to relate to God as healer, savior, and miracle-worker, but not as leader.
Plus, leadership is a bad word because of all the bad leaders in the world.
Let me give you a few crazy examples.
Top 10 Evil Leaders In The World
Take tyrants like Pol Pot.
In the three years that he ruled Cambodia, he killed most of their intellectuals. He then forced people living in cities to work in the barrios as some extreme agrarian communism. Because of the mass executions, the poor health conditions, and the poverty—two million people died—half of the population of Cambodia.
Another word for Tyrant is Bully. Bullies like Adolph Hitler.
Hitler was an incredible leader. He spoke so powerfully, he convinced all of Germany to conquer Europe. But at the end of Hitler’s rule, 10 million people died—including 6 million Jews.
Or take Joseph Stalin. He was head of the Soviet Union for 31 years. Because of the vast number of executions he ordered upon those he deemed “enemy of the state”—plus administrative decisions that caused widespread famine in huge parts of his country—international observers say that Stalin may have killed 10 million to 60 million people.
Based on death tolls and barbaric torture, here are the other top 10 evil Leaders in the world: Ivan IV, Vlad Tepes, Leopold II, Idi Amin, Ruholla Khomeini, Maximien Robespierre, and Atilla The Hun.
For many people, God is like them—a tyrant and a bully.
That’s why they can’t relate to Him.
He bullies us to follow Him—if we don’t, He throws us to Hell.
How can we follow a God who is a bully?
I know I can’t.
Thankfully, God is not a tyrant and a bully.
What Is A Good Leader?
Somehow, you already know a good leader when you see one.
Movies show good leaders all the time.
Remember the movie Karate Kid?
If you remember, then that means only one thing: you were born in the sixties, your James Bond was Sean Connery, your Darna was Vilma Santos, and your Batman had written sound effects (“Kapaw”).
In Karate Kid, young Daniel had Mr. Miyagi as his leader. (Favorite quote in that movie: “Wax in, wax out.”) Remember how Mr. Miyagi spent time with Daniel and taught him about life? Remember how Mr. Miyagi loved him and poured his life into him?
It was the same in Star Wars. If Karate Kid had Mr. Miyagi, then Luke Skywalker had Yoda. You see the same thing: Leadership is relationship.
For those of you who can’t relate because you were born in the 90’s, then let me fast-forward in time. How about Lord of the Rings? If Karate Kid had Mr. Miyagi, and Luke had Yoda, then Frodo had Gandalph.
Goodness, even in Kung Fu Panda, Po had Master Shifu. (Favorite quote: “Squadoosh.”)
What is common among Mr. Miyagi, Yoda, Gandalph, and Master Shifu?
Three very important things…
1) A leader builds a relationship with a disciple
2) A leader plants a dream in that person’s heart
3) A leader empowers that person to reach that dream
Let me tell you about my first spiritual leader.
My First Spiritual Leader Was A Woman
I met Aida Manongdo when I was 12 years old.
She was our prayer group leader. At that time, she was already a mother of six children. But despite our age difference, she took me under her wing and discipled me.
First, she built a relationship with me. She sat down with me and we studied the Bible together. She shared her conversations with God. She poured into me her faith and wisdom. And I’ll never forget those times when she prayed over me. When she did, it was like I was transported to Heaven.
The second thing she did was plant a dream in my heart. When I was 13 years old, she took me aside and said, “God told me that you’ll be a preacher. God told me that He has given you the gift of wisdom.” To this day, I have no idea what she saw in me. I was a normal 13-year-old kid who watched Voltes V on TV (I even memorized the theme song) and read Superman Comics. But that’s what great leaders do—find gold in the rough—and pour their lives in that person until the gold comes out.
And third, she empowered me. She said, “I want you to give a talk this coming Friday.” Being obedient, I went home and prepared a 20-page talk.
That Friday, when I took the microphone, I saw everyone was excited. I heard them say, “Wow, Bo’s going to give a talk! He’s the youngest in our group!”
But a few minutes later, they weren’t very excited anymore. Everyone was bored to death. Except for my mother of course who was absorbing every word, they were acting like chickens, their heads bobbing up and down.
I panicked. I decided to skip most of the pages in my talk and turned to the last page. And I said, “That’s all. Good night.” I was totally humiliated. I sat down and told myself I’ll never give another talk in my entire life. Never!
But Aida came up to me after the prayer meeting and said, “Bo, next Friday, give another talk. I said, “Sure!”
I am who I am because of Aida.
I owe my life and ministry to this great leader.
A Leader Builds A Relationship
Bottom line, Leaders are Lovers.
All throughout the Bible, when God wants something done, He’ll call one person—and establish a relationship with that person—and love that person.
This is His modus operandi.
When God wanted a new nation that will follow His ways, He called one person—Abraham. He shows Himself to him, speaks to him, spends time with him, and gives him a vision—“to be a father of many nations.”
When God wanted to rescue Israel from Egypt, He called one person—Moses. He brings him up to Mt. Sinai, shows Himself as the burning bush, introduces Himself as the Great I Am, and gives him a vision—“to rescue my people from Pharaoh.”
In this same way, God wants to build a relationship with you.
He doesn’t want to intimidate you so you’ll follow Him.
He doesn’t want to dominate you into submission.
He doesn’t want to terrify you into obedience.
Instead, He’ll spend time with you. He’ll win your trust. He’ll expose His own heart to you. He’ll pour his life into you.
In other words, He’ll love you.
This is His brand of leadership.
Don’t Cut The String
Imagine a Kite flying on high up in the sky.
You are the kite. God is the boy flying that kite. The string between the boy and the kite is your relationship with God.
But there are kites that feel that the string is holding them back.
So the kite says, “I want to fly higher. I can do so if this string isn’t here.”
So they cut the string. They want to live their lives on their terms. Their theme song is Frank Sinatra’s I did it my way.
When they cut the string, they soar even higher into the sky. And the kite feels wonderful. But in due time, the kite will come crashing down and destroying itself to bits.
Don’t cut the string. Remain in your relationship with God.
In other words, allow Him to love you.
However, we’re not just talking about friendship with God. Leadership is friendship, yes, but it’s more than friendship. Aside from relationship, a leader casts a vision—a dream.
Like the boy flying the kite, God has a vision for your life: For you to fly high up in the sky—as high as it can possibly fly.
God has a vision for your life. It’s found in John 10:10—I have come that you may have life and have it more abundantly.
Here’s what I found out: Like any great leader, God is totally committed to this vision for your life.
Ready To Die
One day, a General knocked on the house of an old priest.
The General said, “Old priest, tomorrow, I’ll be going to war. I want you to offer Mass for our victory.”
The old priest opened the door, saw the General, and said, “You seem very calm for someone who’s about to go into battle.”
The General smiled. “I assure you old priest that this will be an easy victory.” The enemy has 1000 men, I’ve got 4000. They’ve got 1000 guns, I’ve got 4000 guns.”
The old priest asked, “Where are they positioned?”
The General laughed and said, “They are insane. As we speak, they’re now positioning themselves on the seashore, between my army and the sea. And they have no boats. They’re trapped. They’re sitting ducks.”
The old priest asked, “Where will you be when your army attacks?”
“At the back of my army,” the General said.
“And where will the commander of the enemy be?” The priest asked.
The General chuckled, “I heard that he will be at the front of his army. I guess he wants to die first.”
The old priest shook his head. “I urge you, do not go to battle. You will lose.”
The General was shocked. “Old man, didn’t you hear me? We’re 4 times their number. We have 4 times their weapons.” He stormed out of the priest’s house and said, “Don’t bother praying for us! Good bye!”
Three days later, the General—wounded and battered—walked back into the old priest’s house. “You were right,” he said, “my army was wiped out. I’ve come back here to ask you how you knew we were going to lose.”
The old priest said, “Their commander was ready to die. You weren’t. Their commander positioned his army between you and the sea, because he wanted all his soldiers to know that they either win or die. He positioned himself in front of his army to tell his army that he was ready to die—and they should too. Because battles aren’t won by numbers or weapons, but by the commitment of their leader.”
I repeat. God has cast a vision for your life: To give a life of abundance.
But how committed is He to make this come true?
He’s so committed, He’s not only ready to die for it—He already did.
He gave His life on the cross to make that vision come true.
Nothing Can Stop God’s Vision In Your Life
I cannot tell you the name of my second spiritual leader.
He was a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
He wore a nice barong with a nice large silver cross around his neck. He preached well. He sang well. He prayed well. He looked very holy.
But he was the man who molested me when I was 13 years old.
He was also the same man who molested my other friends in the youth group.
I cannot begin to describe to you what followed next. My addictions. How I hated myself. How I lived with shame. I had this incredibly deep wound in my heart that would take two decades to heal. (Even to this day, God is healing my inner wounds.)
I will not wish this pain on anyone—not on my worst enemies.
But here’s my point: even this tragedy in my life was not enough to stop God’s vision for my life—to give me an Abundant life.
Because I’m experiencing this abundance today.
Friend, God won’t allow any problem, any crisis, any trial, any evil in your life to stop His great vision to happen in your life.
You will receive an abundant life.
Trust Him.
I urge you now to make Him your Leader.
Give yourself to Him.
May your dreams come true,
Bo Sanchez
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thanks for this bro. but i think for my situation this is very difficult because i have’t experience having a father at all. that’s why im having a hard time being a leader….what can i do…..
Dear Bo,
Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful message. God is the great Leader! Now, I realized why until now, I haven’t reached my dreams and goals in life. I must follow God. For I can do all things thru Christ who strengthen me
God Bless and More power. YOU are a great blessing from God. Keep up the Good work!
Hi Bro Bo,
Thanks again for another inspiring article! I suddenly remember the movie Kung Fu Panda..
It was a great film.
By the way, this line really struck me. “battles aren’t won by numbers or weapons, but by the commitment of their leader”.
Let’s pray that our leaders are really committed in serving the country.
More power Bro Bo. Continue in inspiring others.
Hi Bo,
Such an inspiring article (as always)! I really love learning about your thoughts and would love to still learn more.
As an aspiring leader, I still am practicing to be one. In my early 20s, I truly am engaged in wanting to make a difference in my simple ways. Also a writer, I also am so into this “high” every time I develop my passion.
Hence, every time I get to know about inspirationals from various authors, I am deeply satisfied with the hunger for wisdom from experts in their own leagues.
What a beutiful and inspiring story. It touches me so well. Thank you Bro. Bo. Continue to be a blessing to others. You are an inspiriration to me.. I am holier today than the any days of my life since I read your writings. This one added on me.. God Bless!!
May the force be with you..
Bro. Bo, I thank God for you!
Am so inspired today especially am feeling down due to office problems that happen today. I was praying early today to bless my boss that he will be enligthened to encourage us and be an example of a great leader. God really speaks at the right tine.
Thanks God for his message to me today. I ask for His grace to help me in my work and be an example of His love and mercy despite the lack of inspirations here of a great leader.
dear Bro Bo,
Thanks for your wonderful message..
Walang I just feel parang ang layo mo sa amin.
I haven’t been able to look at you within 1 meter..
I was always 100m+ when you are talking.
Wasn’t able to talk to you.
Though your so DISTANT I doesn’t hinder me to be inspired by your Messages..
I really wished to meet you, That was actually my wish for my 21st birthday.. Well my birthday was last july..
That day just passed by just like an ordinary day.
Hope you’ll read this..
I really want to meet you..
Thanks alot Kuya Bo Sanchez..
Thanks Bro. Bo. I always find your article very inspiring that I can’t resist reading it at once everytime I got it in my inbox. Keep on inspiring us. Thanks a lot!
Hello Bo,
What you revealed in this article about making God our Leader runs counter to the world’s concept of a true leader. How I wish this article would circulate among our leaders in the government, in the private sectors and in the families!
As I look back in my younger years, I find that thoughts and ideas like these should have been discussed among us in elementary, high school and college.
But, perhaps, I should have been alert, too to the leaders I had during those years. I remember the many mentors and leaders who I admired. Back then, I didn’t know why I really liked them or wanted to be like them.
And this article clearly gave the reasons I could not understand then. Thank you for this, Bo and may you continue to write things like this to inspire us and put many things in their proper perspective. More power to you!
Did politics ever cross your mind?
Let’s face it, Filipinos have a really bad taste in choosing their leaders and you’ll probably lose it for some evil, selfish politician.
But i’ll vote for you, promise.
If only we could pray that they choke on their P1,000,000 meal or that their plane crash in the middle of the pacific ocean…that would great, but that would be unChristian, so I’ll just pray for you. hehe.
Dear Bro Bo,
Thank you again for giving me another thought to live by. I shall be sharing this to my husband. please pray for us and my family. May we be good leaders to our children first and foremost.. God bless you and your family always..
Elsa
Bro BO,
I’ve read a few books about leadership and they present a complex idea about Leadership… sometimes I wonder, how GOD want me to proceed…
In this short article, you not only summed up Leadership principle but also presented a new meaning — Trusting GOD!
Thank you!
Phil 1:4
bro Bo,
Husbands are obedient to God. HE is only using us wives to speak to our husbands, because they are too busy to discern.
There were a lot of “wows” in your sharing, and I found “you’ve hit the right spot moments” with these:
1. If you had a difficult relationship with your father, most likely, you’ll have a difficult relationship with all the leaders in your life. Including God as leader. — I never thouht about it that way. While I work under my fatther, I never knew what happened a long the way, when we drifted off. I’ve had three jobs in 6 years, and I’m thinking of moving again, because my father and I don’t get along.
2. Instead, He’ll spend time with you. He’ll win your trust. He’ll expose His own heart to you. He’ll pour his life into you. — This makes me contemplate in my brand of parenting. I have recently adopted the “spare the rod, spoil the child”. I don’t want my child to be a brat, and I tell him the things that I do not want. How do you balance firmness with affection, that the child will understand?
3. Even this tragedy in my life was not enough to stop God’s vision for my life—to give me an Abundant life. — This is a nice promise. I believe this too, but it’s just taking too much time. Although I am confident that we’ll get there.
This is really very inspiring. You are helping me revive my burning desire to re-acquaint and love my father, both the human and the heavenly.
God bless. Nakakaiyak sya in a sublime way.
sir bo,
thanks God for having bro bo in our lives……….
salamat………….
thank you bro bo!
really inspiring, it lifted my spirit. thank you so much.
God Bless you po.
Thank you Bro Bo for nourishing our souls every week. You are the epitome of a good servant leader not ony to the LOJ family but to wherever God inspires you to be…
More power / blessings to you and the family.
cool
Thanks Bro.Bo for the hope and inspiration in this time of depression in my life.God bless you.Cheers!
Dear Bro.Bo,
Thank you so much for sending me this wonderful message..God bless you..
nkka relax mag basa ng mga email mo bro nag gro grow ako spiritualy…salamat at nakilala kita sa mga talk mo lage ko nga pinapanuod ang srap makinig eh…..wish u good health bro bo pra marame pang makarinig sa mga talk mo…GodBless u always…
Dear daddy Bo,
Im really inspired..
thanks bro.bo..guess,you are truly a God’s messenger bcoz the message you’ve sent is very timing in my life as i am struggling to be a leader..thanks for the email .for i realized i must let God be my leader first ……..God bless!!!
hi bro bo:) thank you for this great message. it will really help me and my community a lot in serving God more especially now that we are experiencing some challenge. thank you so much:) more powers and continue to be God’s instrument:) God speed:)
Dear Brother Bo!
Thanks so much for this writing… it blessed me a lot and still blesses me… i know (more) that God loves me by reading your writing…
God bless you!
I am currently looking for answers to my questions and indeed, this article answered some of those… Thank you so much for the inpiration. You are really sent by God to inspire us…God bless you!
Thank you for sharing this article with us. I even cried while reading your article. Hindi ko akalain na mahal pa rin ako ni Daddy God kahit sobrang down na ako as of to date dahil sa kawalan pa rin ng trabaho. Honestly and sadly, I am one of the few ( lower 10 percentile) of the batch in my major who was not able to find a job and still waiting and waiting without any assurance that a call will be receive. Also pray for me for this situation.
Thank you and more power.
thanks bro bo for another inspiring article be blessed
thanks bro bo for another inspiring article be blessed wishing for more inspiring msgs on how to be the best leader
thank bro bo, i feel so blessed because of your inspiring articles. please include me to your prayers and pray that God will use me as an instrument to help and inspire people here in middle east.
thank you so much bro bo. God bless us all!
I thought Mr. Miyagi said, “Wax on, Wax off” because Daniel-son was putting “wax on” the car window and “wax”ing it “off” with the other cloth in his hand.
Tito-Brother Bo, I was not born in the sixties. In fact, I was born in the 1980’s. Pierce Brosnan was my James Bond, but I knew Sean Connery was a former James Bond because I was into Film/TV. (I shook Bruce Willis’ hand at 20th Century Fox back in 2004 when I was still 20 years old. I never watched Darna, and I forget the face of Vilma Santos because I grew up in U.S. Culture, but I recognize your terminoly due to international cable television available for the intnernational Pinoy community. On TV, I’ve seen Batman with “Bam” and “Smack” and I’ve seen his cartoonic version. I’ve also seen many mini look alikes on the streets of Halloween.
I love this article. Really.
Thanks for your team interviewing me for your Preacher in Blue Jeans segment, last year. And I still have my photo with you when you came to Carson, California. Those facts prove valuable. Mga pinoy dito.
i was just havin a hard time last night because i talked to my father and he was blaming me that i got sick. i was asking for financial support for my expensive medications but he just ignored me and said that it was my fault that i am in his kind of situation. tore me really apart.
after havin read this article, i realize that he’s still my father, and no matter what happens, he’ll always be. maybe he’s also havin’ a hard time with my situation, and the least i can do is to burden him no more of my problems.
Thanks so much for this write up. It’s an overwhelming feeling to be reminded how much we are loved by God. The sacrifices HE gave because of this LOVE.
As everyone is busy at work, most of the time people set aside God and call HIM only when a person is in trouble, problematic and desperate. Let us ALWAYS be REMINDED that “GOD IS, WAS AND ALWAYS WILL BE THERE FOR US”. Let’s allow HIM to be with us always in the deepest core of our hearts. God loves us all truly.
hi bo! thank you so much for this message.am really so inspired reading this coz am in the situation right now that really so bothered why am not achieving my dreams…my desires..maybe my actions are not enough to convince Him that He is the leader in my life..i draw strength from Him..tell me how bo could i let God know?..please tell me..:(
Dear Br. Bo,
thanks for the inspiring article!
Jesus is my Leader and my king..
I can’t imagine myself without Him…
thank you for the realization…
as a kite.. i will continue to fly with Jesus as my guide!
Thank you and God Bless us all!
–Riz Panganiban ^_^..
thank you so much Bro. Bo. this article inspired me so much God Bless. nomer
thanks bro bo, your writings always enlightens my heart, mind and soul, continue to reach out and spread the good words, you are indeed god’s gift to people;-) god bless always…..
ur a good example of a great leader… I hope our country would also be bless with sum1 like you.
Am always in awe with ur articles, it is so simple and yet it never fail to enlighten me.
Am always wonderin whre’d u get the inspiration, til I fall inluv, and compose a poem for him. It turns out to be so sincere and he luvs it.
Now I know, becoz u writes from ur very core and as u said from ur previous article, It is there where God resides.
Very nice..God Bless u po!
Hi Bo..u truly always inspire me, I was molested when I was 5 yrs old.. but through all that pain that God has healed me from, I am soo in love with Him! Today I am a leader in my campus ministry, and I truly believe that we have to really love and care and also be transparent when caring for his sheeps..a leader doesnt have to be like all the leaders out there who looks like a president of a country, but really those who have the heart to serve n care for his people..You are truly inspiring.. God bless you, your family and all your wonderful works!
Hi Bo! thanks for that very inspiring message, I really feel blessed that a friend forwarded this to me. I feel assured that amidst all the trials we had, God’s presence and love is very much felt in the family. Thanks a lot
WOW,WOW,WOW…Very Strong & Inspiring words of Wisdom..It reminds me of my father…Thank you Bo. I hope its not too late for me to put back the string that I’ve been cutting for almost 5 years wt my Father..Bo. will you include me in your prayer and my family?pls…
Hi Bro.Bo! thanks for another inspiring story today….God Bless u always….
I am hapy that I’ve read your article about leadership. If only there will be more leaders in our country then there will be a major transformation in our society. Leaders are not supposed to be humble, discrete, unexpecting of praises or rewards and yet in their own way do something significant to the lives of others.
God bless and may we have more leaders. : )
please delete the word “not”. Instead leaders are supposed and not leaders are “not” supposed.
my mistake.. ehem leaders are also willing to accept their mistake. : )
A very inspiring and timely article. What struck me most is line ” God won’t allow any problem, any crisis, any trial, any evil in your life to stop His great vision to happen in your life, You will receive an abundant life”.
“Trust Him”.
I feel so relieved and blessed today, I know God will never abandon me. Bo, I think I’m the only person who owns a school which literally don’t have enough funds. I’m experiencing financial difficulties, crisis and problems now but I know God has better plans for me. I know he’s preparing me for an abundant life. It’s so hard for me to manage and be a good leader to my workers when I myself is starting to feel defeated.
Now, I was reassured that God will give me abundant life. I’ll surrender everything to Him. Thanks Bo for this wonderful article.
Sunnyhill
Thank you so much for this wonderful post! I will forward this article to all my loving mentors. May God’s light be with you always! =)
Hi bro BO,
I thank GOD for giving me your website .
Your mesages inspire me lot. I believe that GOD will never abandon me.
Please include me and my family in your prayers.
May GOD give you good health and bless you financialy so you may continue your service and bring more people to HIM>
thank u for ur inspiring words..
i hope i can be a a good leader as u. i want to start to be a leader but m always afraid to be rejected.. m 2nd eldest in my family, i have 5 younger sisters and 3 younger brothers. all of them never listen to me. i have difficulty to get along with them coz i spent my college day in manila(my family is in bataan).. and aside from that, all my sis always find me inferior to them…
can u advise me wat should i do? thanks!
thanks bo… i needed that
hi bro. bo,
just want to tell that my first leader is also a woman, she is sis.lety co, it also came from your very first community w/ sis. aida manongdo.
im glad that im in a right path.
please pray for me not to misaligned in that path.
thanks for the inspiring soul food.
youre a gift to us!
erick
Wow, thank you Bo. I love this article. I was teary eyed reading it. It is true that I do have trouble imagining God to be this committed leader in my life for my own father has been emotionally unavailable while i was growing up. For the most parts, my own father has only related to me as being a provider. I’ve had so much resenment for him while growing up, and it showed in the way that i related to him, especially in my 20’s. But then in the last year, i made a decision to forgive and to just be loving to him, coz i know that he’s only been giving what he also received. He could not give what he himself did not have.
I chose to forgive. And i still do that every single day of my life for there are times that my resentment comes out and thus i make a conscious effort to choose love. But God knows how i need his grace everyday just to manage. I had to choose to forgive it because i wanted to live free from the anger that was eating me up. It took so much toxic energy holding on to all those resentments within me. Akala ko masarap na pahirapan ko yung dad ko in his efforts at relating towards me. I thought i had all the right to do so.
But it sure did not compare to the lightness of being that i started to feel when i chose to let go of my resentments and just love. I know my father loves me, not just in the way that speaks the loudest and clearest to me.
Thank you for reminding me that i have a Father in heaven who is all perfect, who wants to take the time to have a strong and deep relationship with me, who put such wonderful dreams in my heart and a strong sense of purpose to go with it, and who teaches me the right way to go in pursuit of my dreams. In other words, i have a father in heaven makes me whole. Di bale na kung hindi perfect and dad ko on earth. Together we can journey towards wholeness, guided by our Father up in heaven.
bro bo,
thank you so much for all the things you have shared .
please continue sending me more messages!
i love you bro!
Thanks Bro, you inspired me so much. I prayed now for me to have more faith and not be afraid…because where ever I go…My God is in front of me holding my hand and clearing my vision. God Bless!
Another great blog entry. And as usual, it hits me right on the spot.
Heya Bo
Fantastic Article!!!! just a mini mini question that is bugging me: Why does it seem that by default a leader would be a guy?
I know you wrote that Your ‘first spiritual leader was a woman’. but i get the feeling that because shes a woman therefore this is more exceptional!
its almost as if its not normal for a woman to be leader.
still love the article though
Love love.
Dear Bro. Bo, I am so inspired! I also had a very bad childhood with my father. I was also molested because of my father, but i learned to forgive him but not the person who molested me. It caused me allot of troubles emotionally, spiritually and mentally. When i got married, this experience that i had caused me too much that my wife and i got into the brink of seperation. In times that i long for the love of my father, it is only my God thru prayers that i can speak and tell him all the hurts and pains and even anger that i feel on that very moment of my life. I thank the blessed scrament sisters convent community for they taught me how to communicate and lead me to his path. I am also a leader in our marriage encounter community together with my wife. It is true that for you to lead, you have to open your self and willing to die for others. Dying does not only mean physical death but offer yourself as living sacrifice so that others may live. We must die in order for us to folow our Leader my father God. Loving God means following him not because he is my God that commands but because i feel his love and ilove him very much. I love my father so much now that i don’t have to tell him my childhood experience. Mararamdan lang niya na hindi siya naging mabuting ama sa akin and i do not want him to feel the pain that i experinced. I let my Father God heal both of us specially me and i pray to him that you inspire many like me. This is only the second time that i commented. You are a great help in healing the wound of my past. Thank you so much and God bless!
I believe God had sent you to me today brother Bo. Thank you for being his instrument.
Dear Bro. Bo,
If only our politicians and even religious heads have this kind of leadership, we could have a more better philippines. but I’m not losing hope to this people. I still believe in the power of prayer.
Thank you again Bro. Bo.
God bless.
Ernie
Hi Bo, this article is really inspiring. I’ll share it to my friends.
Bo,
This article moved me to tears. Thank you for showing me how God loves me and that God has a vision for my life.
I can truly feel God’s fierce love for me… through your sharing in your own relationship with God and your life experiences. Your message here Bo is very fitting for what I am going through right now.
My deepest thanks,
Thresa
Hi Brother Bo and to all our brothers and sisters in Christ! I believed I e-mailed my father after I read your first article about God as Father to reconcile with him. It lifted the burden I have in my heart and I know that it also freed him from the pains that he have.
I’ve spent a lot of money to get a grasp of what leadership is. I was so amazed by all the principles and techniques and valuable insights about the topic from big time self help/personality development gurus. I really love topics about how to become a leader. I’ve read quite a number of books about it. If you remember I shared one to you the first time I heard your teachings here in California.
But you know what, when I started reading the Bible after attending a Christian Life Program from Couples For Christ, I found out that all the principles and teachings that I’ve read from all the well known authors about leadership and self help gurus are actually teachings from the Bible. Everything was from our very dear Father God and put into plain words and actions by our one and only Savior, Jesus Christ. Jesus modeled everything that God the Father desires for us, He led us to God and taught us to have servant attitude towards one another.
I felt so dumb, all the while the great teachings was in front of me I just have to turn the pages and study The Word. But I guess until the Spirit comes and enters into you nothing makes sense.
Now everything is becoming clear and I’m starting to learn more about The Word.
Thanks Brother Bo for letting God work through you so that many more will look and find wisdom.
May God be praise.
my father is a combined dictator and authoritarian: he assumes sole power and authority at home. my mother is just a mother. period.
now, i know why my classmates in my school years would not vote me for president: i was not trained well by my first leader.
i’ll do my best to be the greatest leader for my unica hija. help me God!
this is so inspiring…i thank God everyday for people like you Brother Bo who shares their wisdom…I continually pray that God will bless you and your family always…
Bro.Bo,
I’m so thankful for God for giving us a gift like you.i was so inspired by the stories .itencourages me to continue my life thanking God and praising him whole heartedly.
Bro.Bo, thanks for giving color to many lives of people even just by emailing it’s a great help,that’s why I believe that everything happens for a reason. thanks and God Bless Us all.,,,,
Jaizybel
Good evening Bro. Bo.
Another great article from a great man.. Thank you Bro Bo.
As you said, may our father be an ideal one or not he will be the 1st leader. And sad to say not a good one for us
But even my father was not a good example for us, it gave me the wisdom, the discipline, the courage to live a good life.. Even if i had a not so good father.. He gave my a wonderful person in my lolo’s image, more than a leader, more than a father..
My lolo was not here anymore, no more the person who always stood ahead of us, to shield us, to guide us, to love us.. He’s God’s blessing to me and my siblings.
For now… I’m continuously praying that God will give my kids a great leader in their father’s image.. May he fulfill what a dad’s figure should be.
Bro. Bo, i pray that god continue to give you the wisdom because you always inspired and motivate people to live a life in a positive and godly way…. THANK YOU… GOD BLESS
I see why until now i cannot find cofindence of my leadership skills.
I have a very irresponsible father. He just recently left us and go with his “kabit”.
We are all in pain, and it’s so hard for me to find forgiveness now that he is trying to ask us if we can accept him back.
He did so many things that hurt us as his children and as a person.
Thanks Bo for making me see things and enlightening me.
Thank you so much. I hope I can still be a good leader someday.
God bless us…
Now I know why I am having difficulty with my bosses. It is because my father was never close to me. I was never his favorable daughter nor a favorite. I never experienced what my pretty older sister had with my father, favored to ride the car, ate at fancy restaurants and even had her own car.
Bro. Bo,
Hindi n po ako mag english.^^
Hmm..Meron po kasing doctor na nasa mission ngaun..Ginagawa nya po itong mission na ito dahil nagkaroon po siya ng question kung bakit pabalik balik yung sakit..Nung nasagot n po yung question nya..Sinabi nya n po sa sarili nya n mag mi-mission siya..
Ang ginagawa nya po ay i-inform ang tao what’s happening outside and inside their body. And Siya po ay hindi naniniwala sa “Lifetime Diseases”
Bro. Bo..Magbibigay nlng po ako ng isang Stress Management..Gawin lang po ito ng tama..
Stress Management:
1. Pagkagising, Tama po yun sinabi nyo na mag-pray muna..
2. Gargle (mumog) napapanis po ang laway (sali-virus)
3. Wag po muna uminom ng Coffee,Choco,milk or tea..(Acid base po sila lahat, once n uminom po tyo agad ng di muna umiinom ng water yung Ph level ng katawan ntin tataas and the whole day acidic n tyo..pag ganun po..mas prone n tyo sa virus..Kya Step4 muna)
4. Drink 3-4 glasses of water (not cold and not hot)
5.3-4x Inhale/Exhale ( Hinga po ng malalim then yung pag exhale dpat isigaw po kc there’s a tension inside)
6. 5mins Full Body Sweating…
7. Never skip breakfast at wag magpupuyat ( Pag nag-skip po tyo ng bfast yung liver natin nagiging weak..at may sign po siya sa atin yun po ay ang paglabo ng mga mata natin.Pag naging weak ang liver natin..weak din ang life span ni liver at the same time po maikli din ang life span ng buhay ng tao)
Lahat po yan ay may pag-aaral n po..Gawin lang po ng tama lahat yan at the same time FREE po lahat yan…hehe..^^
True, Our body is the temple of God..So, dapat natin itong alagaan..at tyo lang ang unang magmamahal sa katawan natin..hindi ang parents..hindi ang husband/wife..at hindi rin ang mga tao sa paligid natin walang ibang magmamahal nyan kung hindi tyo lang…
Maraming tao ang nangangailangan ng tulong about sa kalusugan…Napapahamak ang iba dahil sa kakulangan ng kaalaman..Kakulangan lang nmn po at hindi Kawalan..
Sana po Bro. Bo..Mabigyan pansin po ito..
God Bless po!
Thanks!
Gino, Pasay City
“I will not wish this pain on anyone—not on my worst enemies” My gosh, it’s so difficult to think about that for someone like you who had been traumatized.. many have been emotionally abused and wounded… But God gave you the strength to forgive, a leader like him who could have nurture you .. and guide you..
Thanks Bo for the wonderful insights about leadership.. Sometimes, there are leaders in the prayer community who makes you feel guilty and say that you are ” disobedient” if you dont follow rules in the community.. There are times, however, that we need to reflect, as members of the congregation.. baka nagkukulang din tayo..
Bo, could you talk or elaborate further on how you could relate to your leaders, if you grew without a father on your side.. .. How do you solve this so you can better relate to them.
Good morning. Brother Bo your letter is very inspiring! I committed myself to the Lord as my Leader. At the start, I have to persevere in knowing His presence and what He ask me to do. I am being tested of my faith by being patient and what to choose everyday.
In managing people in my business, His overflowing love and kindness Inspire me to work with my TEAM with Compassion and understanding. I observed that these are some key factors to establish wonderful relationship with them. Sharing ideas and insights to them makes them feel as one member of a family and a Ministry. However, the challenges that we are facing is keeping the momentum of growth.
Thank you brother Bo. Good day.
I thank GOD for giving you the energy, wisdom and courage to do all these activities that inspire and encourage everybody to depend on GOD.By the way, pls. help me Bro. to get my copies of Sabbath and Kerygma for 2010. Thank you so much and just go on with what you are doing now for all believers. Ang pogi pogi mo kay JESUS.
Hi Bo’
I am incredibly struck on the judgement that when something goes wrong with the relationship between an employee and his boss, most probably something is wrong with his own father.
honestly i have had a hard time going through life living while ignoring my father’s presence in my family. i have wintness and absorbed deeply the relationship and treatment of my father to my family.
Bo’ , i dont know exactly what is wrong with me. I am feeling waster after all those years, and until now. I have a hard time dealing with my personality. And i would agree that i am one, pinned to same judgement.
so help me God.
Chatru
Hi Kuya Bo,
I wanna thank you for writing this article! You enligthened my mind right now! as in! Im attached with God but may time na hindi ako nakaka.connecct sa kanya! Bad tlaga ako!
I also understand why the people I work are so hardheaded they don’t follow me or understand the rules, maybe beacuse the way I treat them or the language also, Im Kinda high tempered. Now as I read your article I realized One thing it’s Because I didn’t put God first on my way.
Thank You kuya bo!
I’ll continue also to spread Love to my co-workers kahit na muslim sila! Im working here in brunei as a quality controller!
God bless you!
thank you so much for this article. this is a clear message God wants me to hear.. as i have been praying. i am leading at least 60 people under me. i have no trainings whatsoever.. i just totally depend on God….
God bless all the leaders in the world!
and i wanna add —-
my dad past away 7 years ago.. i never remembered him this much of my life.. only now that i am leading people. i always recall how he counsels me, how he made me realize what are rules for, and how much he loved me..
i was 102 % obedient to my dad. i guess thats why, my boss trusts me so much….
Cheers to all good fathers!!
God gave me a good father.. praise the Lord!
and.. one more..
in my leadership,
i treat God as my COMMADER IN CHIEF.
salamat sa magandang mensahe Bo, malaking tulong ito para sa mga kabataan at sa mga nakakatandang kabataan…more power…
hi kuya Bo! you know i just read your articles and i feel alright,thanks you for enlightening words and i agree with you.your articles made me feel not to surrender and continue to fight for what i want in life.thanks and i hope you’ll have a long long life for you to made others heart free of hatred and fear.you are really a great help for each and every one of us…God Bless us!
Hi Bo! I am the luckiest daughter on earth, my dad is the best leader, my mom is the best light of my life. recently, i am having problems trying to make myself believe that all of this is true. pls pray for my troubled soul. I dnt know, but can it be possible that a 23 yr old woman like me be tired of all the things going in my life? I know I cant change everything and make it happen the way i wanted it to be but at least pray for me that I may accept things as it is and completely embrace it. Bo, if you could email me personally I would like to talk to you. thanks.
Hi! Bro. Bo. ynx God so great nya…nagbukas ako ng comp. para maghanap ng article about a good leader…ang bilis ng tugon ng Diyos…
tnx so much…
My boss says she is task-oriented, but she lacks the quality of being people-oriented. If she doesn’t like somebody, she isolates him/her from her projects and programs. She favors and keeps a group of close friends who she places in key positions in our organization, and are given the juicy projects. Out of utang-na-loob, they become her spies and confidants. They make it their business to gossip about co-employees, and destroy the reputation of good employees (out of envy). However, they also stab each other behind each other’s backs. Motivation and productivity in the organization is at its all-time low. Many good employees have sought greener pastures elsewhere. What with all the greed that pervades among our leaders. Those of us who want to save our school from being utterly destroyed by these bunch of hooligans (led by no less than our dean) are praying for a change of leadership. Please pray for us.
I love my father and have forgiven him who is now in the twilight years of his life. But I have not forgotten the abuses he inflicted on me and my siblings. I and two of my brothers opted to live far away from him so that he won’t inflict us more harm. And yes, I have difficulties in dealing with my bosses because of this distorted image of our leader in the family. I also recall that in my reconversion to Christianity during my college days, I had difficulty in picturing God as a loving Father because of the traumatic image of my father. I need help badly as I am led to depression oftentimes. Keep me in your prayers.
Good day Bro. Bo…
Wow! This is the best place to be online if you want some spiritual nourishment for your soul.
I just want to add Bro. Bo on the 3 traits of a good leader you outlined for us.
Don’t forget the 4th trait which Jesus Christ showed us during His ministry here on earth which is “being a servant-leader” to all men.
HI Bro Bo!
You are truly a gifted man of God!
Congrats in your ministry. God is really using you tremendously.
I know, and i am very positive at saying that you will be there for so many years kasi you have a very good heart and the portrayal of it is very much evident in your personality and the way you talk. You’re such a very loving type of person that this country needs, honestly…as a preacher and as the kind of person who “WALKS HIS TALKS…
I am Lucci (Cruz) of DepEd, the one who gave Leadership & Accountability orientation-seminar to your ushers-volunteers who work in the vineyard of the Lord. . i have personally heard your talk about this topic cause the seminar was on that same date at 3pm, August 23
Thank you nga po pla for personally gracing the seminar. I am just wishing it in my heart that you dropped by, then that little wish in my heart came to pass. thank God!…Siyempre that’s meaningful to me kasi big name ka eh. Napaka-warm mo talaga!
I strongly agree with you about being a leader as the one who faces and embraces accountability and responsiblity. Actually, a leader is more of being a servant and not more of being the one to be served just like our Lord Jesus…
And i like it when you emphasized that a good leader has a big heart to LOVE. That’s the epitome of living: TO LOVE GOD & PEOPLE, NOT TO LOVE MONEY…
For in the bible, 1 Tim 6:9 & 10 says:
“People who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge men into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.
Sana ganyan din pukaw ang puso ng LEADERS ng ating bansa, so this nation will start a STANDARD WAY OF LIVING and soon end poverty.
No corruption, no coompromise, no pretension…
So long Bro Bo!
More power to your minisitry. I’ll pray hard na mdaming-madami ka pang puso at kaluluwang maabot.(including aspirant heads and leaders of this nation..)
To God be the glory. Amen!
Bro. Bo,(or should i call you tito ? :D)
Thanks for being an inspiration to us.
Continue inspiring all the people around you.
ANG GALING TALAGA NG PANGINOON SA IYO.
With you i can see GOD’S greatness.
I’m just 17 years old right now, but i can clearly see that one of my purpose in life is to serve GOD with all my heart, my mind and my soul.
GOD is truly a great leader. I grew without my father by my side, By through knowing and loving GOD, i hope i can be a good leader to anyone’s life.
I hope and Pray to meet you soon personally.
Continue to work for GOD’S greater glory.
PRAISE GOD
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